The desire of our inner critic is for acceptance, likeability, and approval from others.
As a result, we believe that we are to blame when someone does not accomplish those things. Why? We enquire. Why am I so flawed? What went wrong, exactly? Am I a sinner?
NO, that’s the answer. Everything about you is fine; you are not a nasty person. We simply forget that we all have an inner Mean Girl who wants to be loved and accepted by everyone and who will react violently if she doesn’t get her way, telling us incessantly that we’re worthless and worthless pieces of garbage.
But, what the heck? There can be no more! It must stop now. Today!
The reality is that not everyone you meet will accept and love you. Everyone is so unique, has their own issues, triggers, and traumas. Therefore, despite our best efforts, we simply cannot ‘make’ anyone feel anything, not even love for ourselves.
Although it’s normal to desire to be liked by others, continually looking for affirmation and validation can cause stress and anxiety. It’s vital to realize that not everyone will like you, and that’s okay. What we can do, though, is keep in mind these six things whenever we find ourselves looking for someone else’s affection, acceptance, or approval.
1. Keep in mind that you are wonderful just as you are.
One of the most important things to remember is that everyone is unique and special in their own way. There is no one else in the world who is exactly like you, and that is something to be celebrated. Each person brings their own unique talents, strengths, and perspectives to the world, and that makes the world a more interesting and diverse place.
It’s also important to remember that everyone has their own journey, and that you are exactly where you are meant to be. You are not behind schedule, you are not behind anyone else, and you are not a failure because you haven’t achieved certain things yet. You are on your own path, and it’s important to be kind and patient with yourself as you navigate it.
2. Keep in mind that it’s okay if not everybody likes you.
It is a hard fact of life that not everyone is going to like you. No matter how hard you try, there will always be people who dislike you or have a negative opinion of you. And that’s okay. Not your True Higher Self, but rather your inner Mean Girl, craves acceptance from everyone. Your True Higher Self is too busy being a badass spiritual bombshell and channeling divine downloads from above to worry about something as trivial as what other people think about you.
Many of us have a tendency to take it personally when someone doesn’t like us. We may feel hurt, rejected, or even angry. We may even go to great lengths to try and win their approval or change their opinion of us. But the truth is, there are some people who will simply never like us, and that’s okay.
It’s important to remember that we cannot control other people’s opinions of us. We can only control our own actions and behavior. And even if we are the best version of ourselves, there will still be people who dislike us. The reason for this can be any, it could be that they have their own personal biases or prejudices, they may have had a bad experience with someone similar to us, or they may simply not be compatible with us.
It’s important to focus on the people who do like us and appreciate us. These are the people who will be there for us when we need them, who will support us and encourage us. They are the ones who matter.
3. Keep in mind that YOU are the person who needs to like you the most!
Your own liking is the most crucial thing to have!
It’s easy to get caught up in seeking validation and approval from others, whether it’s from our friends, family, or colleagues. We may even put ourselves through a lot of stress and anxiety trying to please others, or we may compare ourselves to others, thinking that we are not good enough. But the truth is, none of that really matters if you don’t like yourself.
When you truly like yourself, you are more likely to be happy, fulfilled, and content. You are more likely to have healthy relationships, be more successful in your career, and have a more positive outlook on life.
Treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion that you would show to a friend or loved one. Stop criticizing yourself and start being more understanding and supportive of yourself. Remember that you are only human, and you will make mistakes. It’s critical to take what you can from them and move on.
4. Keep in mind that you can’t win everyone over.
It would be extremely demanding and difficult to try to please everyone and get their love, acceptance, and approval. The truth is that no matter how hard we try, there will always be someone who disagrees with us, dislikes us, or is simply not impressed by us. It is important to remember that this is not a reflection of our worth as individuals, but rather a natural part of life.
One of the biggest mistakes we can make is to base our self-worth on the opinions of others. We may think that if we can just please everyone, we will finally be happy and fulfilled. But this is not the case. True happiness and fulfillment come from within, and they cannot be dependent on the approval of others.
Additionally, it’s critical to keep in mind that each person is unique. One individual may find something appealing, whereas another may not. We cannot expect everyone to share our values, beliefs, and preferences. We must accept that everyone has their own unique perspective and that it is not our job to change their mind.
5. Keep in mind that you cannot shrink to appease others.
In today’s society, there is a constant pressure to conform to societal norms and expectations. This pressure can come in many forms, from body image and beauty standards to career and lifestyle choices. However, it is important to remember that you cannot shrink yourself to make others feel comfortable.
When it comes to body image and beauty standards, many people feel pressure to conform to certain expectations. Whether it is the pressure to be thin, have a certain skin tone, or conform to a certain standard of beauty, it can be easy to fall into the trap of trying to shrink yourself to fit into these expectations. There is no one “correct” way to look, but it’s crucial to keep in mind that everyone is different.
Similarly, there is often pressure to conform to certain career and lifestyle choices. For example, some may feel pressure to pursue a certain type of job or to live a certain way in order to fit in with their peers or society’s expectations. However, it is important to remember that you should not shrink yourself to fit into these expectations. Instead, you should pursue what truly makes you happy and fulfilled.
6. Keep in mind that your own self is your greatest gift.
One of the most crucial things you can do in life is to be honest to yourself. When you are authentic, you are able to connect with others in a deeper and more meaningful way. You are also able to build a sense of self-worth and self-esteem that is not based on external validation. Being true to yourself doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. Everybody makes mistakes and experiences weak points. But it’s how we handle these moments that truly defines who we are. When we are able to accept our flaws and learn from our mistakes, we are able to grow and become better versions of ourselves.